I had such a cute and effortless date with a guy named Phd…
We met at a day party in early April. He came up to me at the party and started talking to me, I liked that a lot. There are too many instances at parties when guys are on one side and girls are on the other, neither interacting with one another. Phd gave me his number and I texted him mine. I was drinking and I had to text him immediately because I wasn’t sure if I had gotten the number right or wrong. Either way that was such a good day.
Phd is really funny, he talks a lot, and when we talk it’s so effortless. Usually I’m really guarded and vague when I first chat with guys. I don’t want them to know anything much about me honestly. With Phd, I just naturally let it flow and it’s interesting. I don’t really have an explanation on why it’s so effortless or why I just feel so comfortable, it just is.
On our date, he picked me from my apartment to take me to this cool restaurant off the water in queens. He made reservations and all. We ate our food and talked for a long time. At the end we walked along the water (it was freezing) and then he dropped me off.
I hope to write some more about him before he figures out this blog hahaha
It’s been so long since I’ve even had a chance to talk about guys so here it is:
Ex Factor – In January, I’m sure you read that he saw me with Roz out on a date (or read it here). Of course all of a sudden Ex Factor is completely upset and showing emotion. In my opinion, if he was doing the things that a man does to show a woman that he likes her, then I wouldn’t have been on a date with anybody but he wasn’t. I suppose he needs time to get over that as time heals all wounds. On Valentines Day he did text me to say “Happy V Day”. I guess we are going to be friends from a distant. At this point in my life, I can’t wait for someone to act right when they have had years already to do so. It’s just not fair to do so.
Uncle (no not my uncle) – Uncle needs his own entire blog post but I don’t have the energy to do it just for him. Uncle was a nice guy that I met in mid December who I thought was a smart and cool guy. We talked for about a month and a half or so. We went out on dates, talked a lot and shared past experiences. Uncle had a lot of inner issues stemming from his ex girlfriends and his parents. I figured out quickly that I was much more advanced in life, love, and career than Uncle. But really I never held that against him because I thought he was cool.
I’m not sure if I have the patience currently to wait for a man to grow up and then teach him how to be a man. I can’t do that. Uncle has to grow on his own. I also saw that his inner issues were stopping him from a lot of things and will continue to do so until he fixing it. About a month ago, he said that he noticed that I wasn’t paying him much attention anymore. He claimed it was because I was talking to so many other men that I was ignoring him. He also said that he wasn’t going to compete with other men so he was out. I agreed. Honestly, that wasn’t the truth. I wasn’t ignoring him because I was focused on other men. I just stopped trying to be ‘Captain Save A Hoe’. I’m usually ‘Captain Save A Hoe‘ for people trying to fix them and make them better people. It’s just ‘in me’ to want to help people. I gave Uncle a chance and if his inner issues weren’t stopping him, we would be friends now. All in all, he does need to grow up, move OUT of his parents home and try new things. I wish the best for him I suppose.
Roz – I already was not that much into Roz so Roz is gone. I’m sure if I text him right now, he would answer and be cool. I’m not going to text him.
Random Guy from Long Island – There was a guy that I met who was from Long Island. I only bring this up to say that a lot of guys do the same thing that he did. He expressed that the only thing he needs in his life is a loving woman and relationship, blah blah blah. However, the guy texted me good morning everyday and didn’t have (good) conversation. It was slight annoying to me. Why continue to text me and don’t talk about anything. When I start a conversation it was me leading. No thank you, I need reciprocating convo. These guys are lazy nowadays!
What to do from here? I’m taking it easy. That’s as simple as that. I can’t focus on dating at least until Spring/Summer.
I had a great thanksgiving! Here are the highlights from my week:
My family and I are really funny people. We joke, laugh, and play games! We were playing monopoly below. It got to be a very intense game as players were holding onto property and leaving the game. Then we played Taboo and it was hilarious the pressure that you feel when it’s your turn.
I babysat a baby! Just not any baby but the newest baby to my God-Kids clan. She’s a beautiful baby and very good. I had such a lovely time with her. One day of babysitting, I totally understood mothers a little bit more. Everything is about the baby. I’m old enough now where I understand that and I appreciate that. However, I’m going to stick with getting a cat first.
I ate a Coney Dog from Coney Island. No not the Coney Island in NYC, in Michigan there are hundreds of food places called coney island and they have the infamous Coney Dog. AMAZING!!!
I spend time with my friends. I literally love my friends. I still love friends that I haven’t seen in years. It just feels so good to have that feeling of familiarity and trust. I wish I would have taken more photos.
Overall I had a lovely week with my family and friends. I’m seeing that nothing can beat that!
This past weekend I went to kickboxing, happy hour, a girls night, and went to Brookfield place.
Brookfield Place is a new structure in downtown Manhattan. It’s beautiful and my job is actually moving into that building soon. They have a variety of shops and places to eat inside as well. I tried a place called Skinny Pizza. This place actually cured my craving for healthier pizza. It was so tasty and each slice is about 184 calories.
Kickboxing was soo intense. I went to I Love Kickboxing in the Chelsea area. The photo above is exactly how the class is. The first 15 minutes are hardcore and more like crossfit. I loved it but I hated it at the same time. Then after the “warm up”, we actually boxed with boxing gloves. Why didn’t anyone ever tell me that gloves are so sweaty! Ew. All in all, I loved the class and I burned 600 calories.
After I laid in bed for hours hurting from kickboxing, I went to girls night in Brooklyn. It was fantastic and my friend Lisa is quite the host with tiny pot pies, cupcakes, baked ziti, and spiced tea.
Sleeping my way almost through Sunday, I managed to get up to go to happy hour to celebrate my friend Shannon’s birthday. I also enjoyed wearing an off the shoulder shirt. I love shoulders!
Well, that was my weekend!