New Editions To My Apartment

I just bought the best mirror that $80 could buy… at Target. This mirror is so cool and tall, at 68 inches. It’s exactly what I wanted! So.. since I am not moving to Brooklyn anytime soon, I decided to replace some things around my apartment. I am on a constant quest to make it roomier and better, just to really give me more of an “apartment” feel since it’s so tiny. My apartment is a tiny studio in Manhattan near east village, to be more specific. If you know anything about Manhattan and NYC, you know tiny spaces are the normal.

I had this mirror shipped by Target and I didn’t even know that it would be so beautiful and huge. The stock photo is kind of boring.

But in real like, it’s just so clean and sleek. I love it! Also, Ex-Factor put this mirror up completely on his own, I was no help. Good thing I had him!

I also bought a plastic dresser to fit some more clothes into. My problem is space but I’m going to throw out a smaller drawer and replace with this one. This will be my second one and definitely worth the money ($80).

I think the next thing on my list to figure out a better clothing storage system. I have two large shelfs available in the closet but I just can’t fit anything up there. It’s a hassle to have to climb up there daily. Maybe I will do those vacuum storage type clothing systems?


Sharing My Lunch

I just had to quickly share my lunch with you all.

I forgot my lunch at home and decided to order a salad. A simple caesar salad transformed into getting a taco salad. By that time, I added tortilla chips and black beans to be added on top of the low fat cheese, chicken and kale. It was definitely pass my usual lunch amount but well worth it! Soo good.


What I’ve Been Doing This Summer

This summer started out slightly boring but it’s shaping very nicely. I’m getting a hold on a lot of things lately.

Work – I have this new job and I’m enjoying it. The people and my boss are great! Soon we will be getting busier and I do like being busy more so than not having anything to do.

Workouts – I have a workout schedule down pat. I’m working out in the mornings at the gym in my apartment building but I now have to figure out how to utilize my New York Spots Club membership more. It’s too expensive for me to be paying yet I’m not going. My workouts are consistent now and it’s like second nature for me to wake up and workout now.

Vacation – I just got back from vacation, a cruise to be exact. I went to St. Thomas, Puerto Rico, Dominican Republic and Grand Turk. It was amazing! Having that down time just helped me to become more upbeat and excited about the life that I currently have.

Men – Who, what, where? I’m still on a break.

Travel – I booked a trip for my 30th birthday next year. A few of my girlfriends and I are going to Negril Jamaica during Memorial Day 2017. I’m so ready to see the Island men. I do plan on going back and forth to Michigan for the holidays. Also, I’ll probably make my way to Atlanta for my best friends birthday in January too. I love to travel so maybe next August I’ll go back to Puerto Rico or go to Panama.

New Projects – I’ve been going back and forth on what my next mini passion project will be. I wanted to do YouTube but then I decided to start this blog. I needed an outlet and I needed a way to connect with people. I’m thinking this time I will start a podcast, talking about life things as I do on here, but including guests who have even better and outrageous stories too. Of course, those guests would be friends or friends of friends. That sounds better then YouTube for me, I don’t want to have to put on makeup all the time to record.

Since the Fall is coming and that’s my fav season, I’ll have to post an entirely new Fall Goals List. Hopefully, I complete everything this time around…

My Men?

It’s almost Fall and i’m very excited! Fall is such a sexy time of the year. I love to wear cute jackets, nice riding boots and leggings. That’s so me! Other than that, Fall is a great time to meet a guy! I’m looking forward to that.

So I don’t really have any men right now. I have stayed true to the fact that I’m not dating really. I’ll go out but I’m just not into it right now. However Ex-Factor is still alive… and in my life occasionally. We actually have been having very good interactions and have been very nice to one another. It’s really good when we are on the same level. That isn’t stopping me from dating at all though. It’s just me saying that I’m really enjoying Ex-Factor right now. The man is so sweet when he wants to be. Last weekend, he came to visit me when I got back from my AWESOME cruise (you will see a post very soon). He came to visit because he had bought me something. I’m shocked because it’s been a long time since he bought me something ‘just because’ other than food/drinks and gifts for holidays. He definitely feeds me, that’s always a plus. So at my house, he pulls these earrings from his pocket. I’m slightly … hmm i’m tipsy and I ask, “what is this”. He says nothing so I just open it to see what it is. It’s earrings. I WAS NOT expecting this man to buy me earrings. They are very cute. He said that they reminded him of me and I can definitely see why. That was also VERY sweet of him. I like the fact that he was out minding his own business and he thought of me. I like to think I’m special and he showed me that I was, that day. I do think of him a lot but we just are not going to be together unless I’m down with waiting until I’m 55 to get married. This will not be us, hahaha. Either way I’m thankful for what we share/d, just not the ridiculous times.. The End. old people getting married


Guy Update #1,024

Yes, I do feel like I have given 1,023 Guy Updates on this blog. Here’s another one:

All of those guys that I talked about last post are gone except for Ex-Factor…


  • Ex-Factor – He’s still alive and kicking. He still lives close to me. He just really irritates me sometimes. It’s like he does the opposite of what I ask him to do. I don’t know if God invented another man as not right for me yet this man is still there.
  • Law & Order : So there was this cop guy and he had to be most unattractive guy I’ve going out with in such a long time. Not unattractive physically but unattractive in probably every other aspect. Physically, he was about 6’3 with light brown eyes. Everything else was just… so unattractive to me.

    He picked me up from my house. He was wearing a (too short) Polo shirt, khaki shorts and some sneakers. The whole outfit was off. It didn’t fit well. He didn’t have any muscle tone at all. Like there’s nothing hard on his body at all that I know of.

    So we got into his car and he proceeded to drive us to the pool hall. This man CANNOT drive! He is a New York City Police Officer and he cannot drive worth anything.  He did mention that he has to retake his drivers test within his department. His inability to drive really made me more unattracted to him. I’m almost thirty and a man being able to drive is a must. He doesn’t need to have a car in NYC but you need to be able to drive. That’s just the Michigan Motor City in me. This man was the worst driver and it was like he was afraid of the people walking and other cars. Like dude, are you gonna be afraid of all this body too? Ew he could never touch me, I thought!

    We get to Herald Square and he parks, he makes sure to read the parking signs and then we enter the pool hall. The pool hall was so empty which was great. I didn’t want everyone to see me whip his butt in pool, I’m pretty good. We had already made a bet that if he lost, he would record a video of himself twerking in his cop uniform.

    While I’m lining up my shot, Law & Order is behind me staring at me very creepy-like. Then he presses his body against mine while I’m shooting. Hmm let’s see, this would have been majorly cool if I was attracted to him and he had more facial hair. In fact, he didn’t have any facial hair and he reminds of my 18 year old nephew’s friends yet this man was 31.  SO, of course I win 2/3 game of pool and he has the video ready to show me. In fact, he sends me the video. NOOOO don’t send me the evidence sir! The video is of him twerking badly in his NYPD uniform and it was pretty funny. Yes, I’ve sent that video to my closest friends and family so we could enjoy a good laugh. If I was a horrible person, that video would be on this page making you laugh too. It would have gone viral.

    It was about 11:30pm in Herald Square on a Sunday so the only restaurant open was Hooters and I was so excited for a good Hooters burger. While we waiting for a table, he bent down to try to kiss me. In fact, his whole body was touching me at the same time. I’ve never been so touched on a date. He touched and wanted to connect with me the entire time. Man, we are in the middle of Hooters, people are eating fries and crap, why are you trying to tongue me down? No way, where’s my burger. So eventually I get my burger and we leave. We get to his car or where it used to be parked. His car is gone. Hahahahaha

    This didn’t make me laugh at the time because I really just wanted to go home and go to bed. His car being taken really slowed down my process of getting home. He’s like, “nooo where’s my car”. I educate him that his car is probably in the pound because it was towed. He’s like how you know and where is that at. He’s looking at the signs and see that he parked in a commercial vehicle spot. How are the police and you get your car towed? My thing is that he didn’t act like a police officer in the situation, he didn’t know anything or what to do. How you gonna help someone when they are in need? Maybe he will learn after a few years and eventually be a great cop? That night, I had to lead him to car pound place and I even ordered us an uber. As we were getting out of Uber, he was like “how do I pay for this”? I say, “I got it, it’s only $5”. Who doesn’t know how Uber works? He lives in NYC and doesn’t know how Uber works and he JUST got a car.  I’m not sure if I can trust a man who doesn’t know how Uber works or how to Google things. At the car impound he pays 200 to get his car out and then there’s a huge 115 ticket on his windshield too. He then asks me, “want to hang out longer and go somewhere else?” Seee that is something I like about him, he’s so positive or he’s just unaware of life… I chose to go home. He was touching me too much and I was not attracted to him overall.

    Well I haven’t seen him again but I still have that video if you want to see it …

I’m Done Dating, Really!

I’m done… finito… I QUIT DATING. 


If you’re my friend, you know those are sad words to hear me say. Friends are always encouraging me to date, be open, and see what’s out there. The truth is there is nothing out there (in the dating sphere) and after a year of proactively dating again, I’ve had enough ridiculous stupid stories to fill this blog up with but none that I care to remember. None that leave me with a good taste in my mouth. In fact, dating has turned me off and is making me slight… bitter. I’m not even 30 yet, I am definitely not trying to be bitter already. Maybe I’m just tired, maybe I just need a break? First of all, I need to boot Ex-Factor out completely. Beyond that, it doesn’t matter because even before he was back, I still didn’t have anything going on. The truth of the matter is that it is just not my time to find anybody worth anything.

Let’s state some personal facts here – I’m black, I live in New York City, and I want a particular guy. Being black is important because there’s a LOT of people in NYC but there’s not some infinite amount of black people, it’s like sprinkles of people that run in the same crew. Being black in NYC means you know all of the eligible people yet no one is settling down because it’s so much freaking fun to party, be out, and mess around. It’s just not the settling down place, not at least until you’re over 40. The particular man I’m looking for needs to have a career, be at least taller than I am at 5’9, can drive a car, not be a creep/whore/cheater, not have kids, and eventually could move out of NYC. I hate NYC about 80% of the time nowadays, I’m ready to go but I now have this new awesome job so I can’t. Any who, is that too much to ask for? That’s just bare minimum, I think. That’s literally just a simple list that I just made up although I know list don’t really matter with love but that’s my starting point.

Back to the point – I’m done with dating… for now. 

VCA – Very Cool Article

While on Facebook one day, I ran into this article on’s FB page. This article described a young woman who worked in a corporate job setting and then left that job to follow her passion of being a cycling instructor. Why did I like this article so much? I liked the article because it was yet another example of following your passion and doing what makes you happy despite the money.

Articles like this give me hope that one day I could do the same. This new job that I just started is awesome and I hope to be there for a few years. However, there’s just always been an entrepreneur spark inside of me, it’s so appealing. I’m just not able to do that right now living in NYC and having sallie mae on my behind. But one day, I definitely hope to have my own company one day. I’m just not sure how and what exactly, I’m still waiting for that inspiration.

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Other cool articles that have inspired me lately: